Isn't It Funny....

Hey, I know it's been a while, but, like most of us, I've had a lot going on! I did want to talk to you about an issue that's come up with a LOT of clients lately, since it's the holidays and we're all seeing loooonggg lost friends.

So today I was couching it, watching "Romy & Michelle's High School Reunion", perhaps one of the best movies of all time. I was struck particularly when Romy is at the reunion, and sees the one of the most popular girls in school. She asks her, hey, where's the rest of the A crowd? And the 'mean girl' says, "We don't really hang out anymore"...and Romy quips "Isn't it funny when you're not friends with your friends anymore?".

I must say, I think we all kinda of feel like this around this time of year. So many of us struggle with seeing our childhood and highschool friends...and maybe now...we've not much to say to each other. Because really, would we pick this person to be our friend NOW?

This is a lot of the work I've been trying to do with folks lately-our friends fill different spots in our lives than they used to-and the same goes for them as well. Many women have told me that they feel they aren't on the same path as their old friends, and now feel judged...I think you need to reconsider the friendship and its worth.

I'm not saying toss the baby out with the bathwater-I'm just saying, maybe not all the eggs in one basket. After all, the movie is about two highschool BFF's that are still roommates after ten years post-graduation. However, those friends you see but once a year.....it's ok if you lost your other half of that BFF necklace! You're a different person than you were in highschool, and it's totally normally that these friendships would morph and grown...and it's a rare and lovely friendship that indeed survives.

So take heart ladies....it is funny when we're not friends with our friends anymore...and awkward and sad....but also cool. Because you've probably got some new friends who love and appreciate the you NOW.